Well, I guess it was 11 years ago I started to notice something was not right with Amy. She had just turned 13 when I caught her always looking at herself in the mirror. She would ask me if I thought she put on weight. I told her of course not, she always looked just right for her age.
You know, I never even thought anything was wrong I took it as just being a teenage thing and really thought no more about it. I remember myself in those teenage years worrying about my looks and going on diets and silly stuff like that, it was what a lot of my friends did too.
I didn’t even pickup on the fact that Amy would just play with her food at the dinner table and just shift it around her plate, eating very little. Of course I would say to her about not eating her food, but she would say she had a lot to eat at school, or at a friends place or some other excuse and I would fall for it.
Now in hindsight I feel really guilty as a mom for not being more aware of things at that time and I go through the “if only I had noticed back then I maybe could have done something” but I didn’t and the 10 years of living hell was about to begin.
Amy had always been a beautiful intelligent girl, always thinking of other people, always nice and kind. When she was 8 she would always do things for her grandmother (who had come to live with us) she always asked if she needed help cleaning or if she could do anything for her. She always volunteered to take Gran’s dinner to her and bring back the dirty dishes; nothing was too much for her.
Amy was 12 when her grandmother passed away. We thought she would be really upset but she seemed to handle it probably better that any one, even her younger brother Ben seemed more upset. We put it down to the fact that Gran had been sick for over 6 months and we had explained to her that we thought Gran would not live that much longer.
Even at the funeral Amy did not cry but seemed to be in full control, but again I was too upset at losing my Mom, that I did not really pay attention.
My God! What an idiot I was back then how could I miss all the little signals that Amy was sending me? Why didn’t I see the warning signs, how could I have been so stupid? They were all there to be seen but I didn’t notice a thing.
I think what really sent Amy on the trip that nearly cost her life was what to her, became a major disappointment when she was 13. Amy just loved to dance and she was good at it and she had a real passion for dancing.
She always said the she wanted to be a dancer when she grew up and if any dancing came on TV she would not miss it. Even if there was a family outing or a birthday party, if dancing was on TV she would refuse to go, until the show had ended.
I have to tell you at this point that Amy was not a typical little 13 years old. She was quite developed for her age with breasts and more of a mature shapes to her body, more like a 16 year old that a 13 year old.
Most of her friends were still waiting to develop breasts and were still the thin little girls with no shape. I didn’t know it then but Amy was teased about her body by some of the girls at school, who would call her fat and tell her she had a big bottom. Of course this was not true, Amy was just more developed but to her she was starting to think she was really fat.
It was the 18 November 1996 that I believe was the catalyst for the 10 years of hell we were about to face. Amy had been practicing for months to get into the school dance troop. It was the auditions for the Christmas extravaganza and Amy wanted so badly to get the lead dance role.
Two days before the auditions she got ill and by the time her dance trials came she was not in good health. She failed to get the lead role; in fact she danced so badly she did not even make the team. When she was leaving the stage I heard one of the girls who was successful say, I told you are too fat.
This episode in Amy’s life was a major turning point (or trigger) that started her 10 years of suffering with anorexia-bulimia. This was the start of my horror anorexia-bulimia ordeal.
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Mom, Please Help: a True Anorexia – Bulimia Story. Part 1
Tuesday, August 31st, 2010Tags: Anorexia, Bulimia, Help, Part, Please, Story, True
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Top 10 Ways for Kids to Deal With Mom!
Monday, August 16th, 2010
Your Mom has a very weighty job, she not only gave birth to you she also has the responsibility of being your Mom. Come on, you didn’t come with an “Operations guide” or “How to manual” she is just left to wing it most of the time. Your Mom really wants what’s best for you and because of that, she sometimes gets a little stressed out. The truth is, Momhood is a strenuous, if not, impossible job at times.
How about good old Dad? Dad is just another kid for Mom to take care of. She cooks, washes the clothing, does the shopping and tries to hold the family together as a unit. Dad might be the pillar of the community but Mom is the cement that hold him up.
It’s no wonder Mom gets a little cranky when things aren’t going right. She’s on a rollercoaster and can’t get off.
It’s important for you to understand Mom has guarded feelings and at times, is easy to upset. There’s an old adage that says; “if Mom is unhappy, everyone is unhappy.” You would do good to never forget the power she wealds. Given your position, it is to your advantage to keep Mom happy and with a few precautions, working on your behalf. She is your link to your future happiness as well as very instrumental in your growth.
Never think Mom can’t raise havoc or bring wrath to your life’s experience. I am here to testify that she can and will, if your attitude warrants it. You can’t fight city hall or Mom, but you can use the power of persuasion to soften Mom so she will be more manageable.
There are steps you can take to help Mom view you as a asset and keep her working for your well being. Here are ten tips to make yours and Mom’s life more enjoyable.
1. Mom’s have a full plate. Sometimes Mom’s busy schedule causes her to overlook your needs. Clue Mom in with a clever post on the refrigerator door, or her pillow. Mom’s always like a special little note from their child. If done right it will show you care while turning her interest on your needs.
2. Get excited. Nothing makes Mom happier than seeing you excited. Even when things are downright boring get excited when Mom comes around. She will think she is doing a superb job raising you and be more apt to be agreeable when you need her attention.
3. Start a “book review” club with your friends. Mom will love seeing you interested in reading and host your friends with pleasure. You may just become an expert on some subject Mom also has an interest in.
4. Have your friends drop a note once in a while to praise Mom for doing such a good job. Mom loves getting recognition for being a positive role in your life. She needs to know she is number one to you and your friends.
5. Keep your space tidy and clean. Moms hate picking up after thoughtless children. With a tidy living space, you can better organize yourself and have more time to enjoy other activities.
6. Admit you need coaching because you have a lot to learn. Ask Mom to teach you how to cook or do something new. Mom is a wealth of information and experience, maybe she would teach you how to make chocolate chip cookies, knit, write a story, or raise flowers.
7. Show Mom a few tricks on surfing the Web. It will make her feel good that you shared your expertise and give you a chance to accidentally land on that new outfit you have been looking at.
8. Ask just enough questions to keep Mom thinking you really value her contribution to your learning. Mom’s are notorious for giving answers, some you might not want to hear.
9. The next time you go shopping with Mom, ask her for shopping pointers. Moms are notoriously famous for their expertise in shopping. She will be proud to hand down her knowledge for your benefit
10. Never say you are bored or Mom will put you to work. If she says, “you look bored” claim temporary insanity it may get you off. At least for a while
When all is said and done, Mom is the center of the household, even though Dad may think he is. You are the leg that keeps Mom steady. Because of you she is able to focus on the more important things in life, like seeing you are cared for and anticipating your giving her a grandchild. Your future depends on Mom and her willingness to be involved in it. Don’t ever underestimate Mom, she has powers you have not seen . . . yet.
Give her the credit she deserves and she will make your life enjoyable in return.
Happy Trails
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Finding Financial Freedom Becomes A Reality With Home Business For Stay At Home Mom
Sunday, August 1st, 2010So many people have thought about the benefits to work from home and to be your own boss. Internet success can be possible with a home business for stay at home mom who wants to make a living while still having the time to devote to her family. T
here is a successful and focused internet marketing system provides training and support to anyone who wants to receive financial freedom through a home business. For a stay at home mom, this is a dream come true. The financial freedom to make sure all of your needs and the needs of your family are met while still having the time to attend an event for your child or even go on vacation.
The system is called Infinity 800 and with this program you receive immediate online access to marketing training that you can download to your computer and review when you want. The system also gives you a free capture page for you to begin your marketing campaign. You receive a daily auto-responder system with pre-written emails that explain everything for you.
There are so many other benefits including the team atmosphere with multi-million dollar team mates all offering training and support. A dedicated support team is always available to you and devoted to your success. A team devoted to giving you the focused training so you can be successful stay at home mom. The Internet is flooded with success story after success story. Anyone has the ability to learn how this system works. The beauty of this system is that you don’t need any kind of prior marketing or computer experience.
The support structure of this automated marketing system is second to none according to other users of this system. A marketing system that allows you to have your own online work at home business and ensuring financial freedom is within reach can benefit you and your family like never before. With unlimited resources at your fingertips, a stay at home mom can find the success she has wanted while still having plenty of time to take part in any family event. The value of being your own boss and having plenty of time for yourself is priceless.
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